{"id":44,"date":"2012-03-28T01:13:04","date_gmt":"2012-03-28T01:13:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/eatingforrealblog.wordpress.com\/?p=44"},"modified":"2012-03-28T01:13:04","modified_gmt":"2012-03-28T01:13:04","slug":"recovery-voice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/?p=44","title":{"rendered":"Recovery Voice"},"content":{"rendered":"

Finding my Recovery Voice<\/h3>\n
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One of the things we worked on at the retreat I mentioned was finding our recovery voice.\u00a0 We practiced separating ourselves from the ED voice.\u00a0 This was a powerful experience.<\/div>\n
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The ED voice is different for everyone but one thing is similar: it is a BULLY.\u00a0 It constantly critiques me or tells me what I should or should not do.\u00a0 It has rules for how I should live my life.\u00a0 Notice how I say “IT”.\u00a0 I would normally say, “me”.\u00a0 But, the bully or eating disorder is not me.\u00a0 In this exercise, we learn that we are not the eating disorder.\u00a0 We identify with the healthy side.\u00a0 This is hard and I still need so much help with this.<\/div>\n
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  • Things my bully\/eating disorder says to me.<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You are fat<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You are unworthy and unacceptable<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You are fat<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You will never be accepted<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You have to weigh yourself<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • No one likes you …..unless you weigh, unless you look a certain way.<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You sound stupid<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You cannot eat that<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You can only eat….<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • You cannot eat in front of others, they will make fun of you<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • If you eat out, you must only eat….<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • If you gain weight, you are a failure<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • If you try to eat more, you will binge..so do not try<\/strong><\/li>\n
  • Do not trust anyone, they are trying to make you fat again<\/strong>
    \n-So the exercise.\u00a0 Whenever I hear a message from the bully.\u00a0 I need to find my recovery\/healthy\/MY voice and practice using it.\u00a0 The tricky part.\u00a0 I do not have to believe it yet.\u00a0 I just have to say it.\u00a0 Say it until I believe it.\u00a0 This is hard.<\/p>\n

    When we were practicing this at the retreat, I found that so many of the other women\/girls heard the same messages.<\/p>\n

    It was NOT just ME!<\/p>\n

    I wanted to hug them and support them.\u00a0 How dare a bully say these things to THEM.<\/p>\n

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    But wait… I do this to myself.<\/p>\n

    It started to make sense.\u00a0 I guess that was the purpose.<\/p>\n

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    So, a list of recovery messages in hand is a recovery tool.\u00a0 Whenever the bully messages appear, write them, read them.\u00a0 Be ready to knock the bully down.\u00a0 Feel free to share some of your bully\/recovery messages with me.<\/p>\n

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    Some of my recovery messages.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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    • -trust your treatment team, they have your best interest at heart.\u00a0 They want you to be healthy and strong.\u00a0 They are committed to your recovery.\u00a0 They have never done anything to show lack of trust.\u00a0 Remember all the times they have worked through things with you.\u00a0 Share your concerns with them.\u00a0 They are here for you.<\/li>\n
    • -your weight does not determine your self worth.\u00a0 you are not a number.<\/li>\n
    • -you are a loving and caring wife and mother.\u00a0 You do everything you can for your family.<\/li>\n
    • You will be better able to care for your children when you are healthy and nourished.<\/li>\n
    • You cannot be perfect and do everything, but you are doing your best.
      \n-all foods can fit into your meal plan.<\/li>\n
    • Trust your dietitian and the foods she has recommended.\u00a0 If you are following her recs, you will not overeat and not binge.<\/li>\n
    • If you need help, ask for support.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      Finding my Recovery Voice One of the things we worked on at the retreat I mentioned was finding our recovery voice.\u00a0 We practiced separating ourselves from the ED voice.\u00a0 This was a powerful experience. The ED voice is different for everyone but one thing is similar: it is a BULLY.\u00a0 It constantly critiques me or […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[12,15,23],"class_list":["post-44","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-compassion","tag-ed-voice","tag-identity"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=44"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=44"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=44"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopeinthemess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=44"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}